This morning I got up and had an unexpected personal wave of panic and doubt as I peeled off my anti-aging mask (my husband nearly had a heart attack).  Call it an end to my 20s meltdown.   The thought of getting older isn’t exactly easy for me.  After all, my 30th birthday is just around the corner and the thought of getting older didn’t bring with it unbridled joy, but a feeling of dread. Despite all the goals I had accomplished, or thought I was supposed to accomplish, I suddenly began to question prior decisions and worry about those I had yet to make.

As I got dressed, daughter off to school, the babies start their morning ritual of clinging to my skirt, crying and tugging away.  And just when I thought that this was the day they’d finally break me down to tears, I found myself asking the question:

Am I where I want to be and doing what I want to do?

Change is never easy, regardless of age. I’m finding it so hard, after staying home with my eldest daughter, leaving my two little ones.  I scramble to break away from them by putting Noggin on the television.  Vowing never to suffer the same fate as my parents did, working endlessly and sacrificing their dreams to provide for us, I head to my car, tears and all (yeah they did managed to break me down).

Fanning myself with tissue and trying not to smudge my MAC nc/nw foundation, I realized that I wasn’t the only woman grappling with this bizarre period.  Scrambling to work every morning and accepting positions we would have scoffed at a few years ago.

Today, with the gloomy weather here in Maryland, I long to be with my family but the reality is that most of us moms are struggling just to keep up.

So here are a few tips that help me find balance and serve as constant reminders of the things I hold true. I hope that they will serve you well:

1. Although I have a million different commitments pulling at my sleeves, I must learn to find comfort with the idea that sometimes one of them will get the short end of the stick.  The kids will always be a top priority and but so is my husband, business and social life. I will try to define “having it all” in my own terms.
2. I must always remember to focus special attention to my personal and spiritual health and well being. Whatever it is that helps me find peace, rest and relaxation is necessary for me to maintain happiness and joy.
3. Find a community (physical/virtual) or group for the support and help I seek. As women, we are unique in that helping comes naturally for us – empathy is second nature. So when things get overwhelming, reach out and touch someone who will be there for me.
4. Focus not on the big things but rather those little moments where hope floats. Laugh as much as possible, cry only because I laughed too hard, and always remember to love myself (every flaw and

Remember ladies, “make time out 4 U and have a cocktail on me!“

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