Let Talk about Love, Relationships and Anal Sex?
If you missed the show last night? SHAME ON YOU!!! We talked about Celebrity Mom Gossip, Blow Jobs, and Anal Sex Oh My!
It truly was Motherhood Uncensored and Rain Pryor joined The Cocktail Cafe Mom Squad last night and offered her mom confession along with Jackie from MomLogic and Amina Carter to chat about sex (blow jobs and even anal… wow!), love and relationships from a mother’s perspective.
WHAT I KNOW NOW
Lessons learnt about Sex, Love and Relationships
Let’s start with the truth… MOMS LOVE SEX. After all, we didn’t get these babies from the stork right? And for those moms that are in a good, intimate understanding relationship, it truly is the best and happiest place in the universe and I’m happy for you.
But if you are like me (learning, struggling, and re-discovering) and you want to enjoy your life, then here’s my personal mom confession and what I’ve learned so far:
1.) It is so difficult to forgive ourselves our failures: This includes those daily mishaps that litter our marriage/partnerships, however happy. BUT, without our failures, we never learn to do things differently. Every failure has taught me some important truth – the most significant of which is always try to look at my part in things.
2.) Blame is a Loser’s Game (are you a SUCKER for love?): If it’s ALWAYS the other person’s fault then nobody wins and EVERYONE loses and NOTHING CHANGES. Blame is a trick of perspective and I must bring the picture into focus long enough to notice that it takes two to make the relationship work.
3.) Concentrate on building and maintaining friendship with your partner: I will be the first to confess to you this… I have struggled in my marriage to my husband Damion (Marriage Gets Better With Wine) I met him when I was 19 years old and loved him from the moment I laid eyes on him (even though I told him that I couldn’t stand him… shhhhh). I was recently given a great piece of marriage advise:
“Always treat your husband as you would your closest friend.”
When my closest friends (I love you Amina… and you know it NOW) are in my presence, I do not criticize the way she stacks the dishwasher. I never look at if she has another glass of wine. I do not try to change her. Because I love her, I allow her to be the person she so magnificently is.
4.) Intimate relationships are high-risk investments: YES, Arguments happen. Real intimacy demands high levels of emotional interaction, which is why withdrawing from sex is almost never about sex but a retreat from intimacy. It’s not so much the sex that matters as the retreat.
In a new study conducted by marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman, it’s estimated that one in 2.7 men will cheat-and most of their wives will never know about it. So, what’s the number one reason men cheat? Ninety-two percent of men said it wasn’t primarily about the sex.
“The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures,” Gary says. “Men are very emotional beings. They just don’t look like that. Or they don’t seem like that. Or they don’t tell you that.”
And this leads me to my final truth…
5.) Explore your Sexuality: Give a Blow Job, Try Some Anal Sex (ease into this one ladies… Oooooohhhhh Wwweeeee did we actually talk about this on the show?) and become the fantasy woman that you and your partner design. If we are not challenging the people we love INTIMATELY to make our SEX lives better, we immediately grant them the freedom to love someone else. So, in that spirit, I try to shut the f*ck up. LISTENING is the key to making your marriage/partnership work ladies (and gentlemen). Don’t be afraid to praise your partner because men are SO emotional and PLEASE KNOW THIS – THE OTHER WOMAN makes him feel special, loved, and better about himself. Don’t be afraid to praise him/her or tell them that you appreciate what he/she does.
All in all, last’s night show was about MOTHERHOOD: Sex, Love and Rlationships from real moms giving straight talk. Find out how we deal with finding our sex drive after pregnancy, allowing ourselves to rediscover our sexuality and redefine love and life on our own terms.
So, what’s Your Mom Confession?
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So sad that I missed the show. So so sad. I will have to catch up with you though. It’s been a rough week, but life happens and we have to press on.
Oh that OK Felicia. Be sure to check out the Podcast or archived episode. We had a blast and Rain Pryor is awesome too. I still can’t believe what we talked about!
Next weeks show promises to be wonderful.
Cheers,
After thinking back to my previous sex partners before I got married, I have realized that my hubby is the best ever. The best at what he does and the best at nuturing our connection. We have been togehter for 13 years, we started out as bunny rabbits and we vow to die like bunny rabbits…lol. We have had our ups and down in our relationship but never sexually that has always stayed constant. As a wife I have learned to never say no even if I have a headace, even if I am tired (as long as he is ready I get myself perky and read and he does the same for me). I have also learned that witholding sexy from my husband is not only a form of punishment for him but also for me. Instead withold other things that he loves. (If you keep believing that when you withold sex that it solves anything, well it doesnt because what you wont do for your husband another woman is ready and waiting to). I love my husband very much and our sexy life have never skipped a beat before, during and after pregnancy. As we get older our views change and we start to mature emotionally, spiritually and sexually. Staying connected and bring variety in all areas of your relationship will keep your love growing and staying fresh. We only take vacation from sex one week out of the month.
My new motto for 2009 is Live life, Love life, appreciate and forget the inbetween. Life is too short to dwell on minor things. Take the time to love you and enjoy the simple things in life.
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sounds like a fun show. the topics are relevant even for single girls like me. i’ll be checking out your archives. would appreciate some tips on how to get back your ex. thanks!
Oh my. One time, I had sex with a guy who had halitosis. I hate really hate that experience.
Well, thanks for this post.
Oh my. I missed this show too. We looked for shower favors that time.
The topics seem to be very interesting.
” Explore your Sexuality: Give a Blow Job, Try Some Anal Sex (ease into this one ladies… Oooooohhhhh Wwweeeee did we actually talk about this on the show?)” — Oh no! I love this.
Other than physical intimacies, there should always be commitment in every relationship.
I am now busy Looking for offers on baby shower favors I missed this.
wohoo.. thanks for sharing.
Yeah it’s so true – men are very emotional beings.
I missed this. Is there a movie to watch for free on this?
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